Some weddings are borderline offensive

The couple has dated for years, lived together for a few of those years, and has now decided to officially tie the knot with a wedding ceremony. The people involved are fun, presumably the wedding itself would be fun, and something to look forward to. That may not always be the case.

There are many people who genuinely enjoy attending weddings – particularly if there is to be a reception with fine dining, music, and dancing. Weddings should be something that guests enjoy and look forward to, but it seems that some young couples can’t seem to relinquish their efforts to control the situation.

The bride and the groom typically have many loose ends that need to be tended to and typically have bridesmaids and groomsmen to help take care of the little details that can add a lot of unnecessary stress on the big day. Weddings are always stressful for some, so why complicate matters more than necessary?

We have an immediate family member who is getting married in March. She has been planning for more than a year and has nine bridesmaids and the groom has nine groomsmen. One would think that in addition to the normal stress triggers of a wedding and trying to manage that many wedding attendants while also being concerned about the family dynamics would be enough stress for any young couple.

But, in the case of my relative, the couple went as far as to suggest what colors guests should wear so all the photos would have a “cohesive” look. Excuse me! You invite us, expect at least one gift from the hundreds of items included in the wedding registry and then have the gall to tell us what you “suggest” we should wear. That’s just too much control. I don’t want someone telling me what to wear.

Weddings, proms, and other special events have changed a great deal from the way they were when my wife and I got married. We married on the banks of Lake Lanier and weren’t the least bit concerned about what our guests were wearing. I was more concerned that no one fell in the lake and that the champagne fountain, keg of beer and barbecue didn’t run out before our guests were ready to leave.

We all tend to make things more complicated than they have to be at times, but telling one’s guests what to wear to a wedding is taking it a bit too far—it’s actually offensive to me.


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